Thursday, March 29, 2012

"Where is Heaven?"

Yesterday, while in the car, Isabelle asked, “Where is Heaven?” It came out of nowhere since we hadn’t been talking about anything around the subject any time recently. Whenever one of these big life questions comes up, I feel like I always have no idea what to say. So I answered by saying that it’s up in the sky above the clouds. She then followed it by asking “How do you get to Heaven?” I really had a tough time coming up with an answer to this one on the spot. So I said when you are sick or there’s an accident, God decides it’s time for you to join him and you go up to Heaven. Apparently, I shouldn’t have stressed about this answer because her follow up question of “Do you climb a ladder to get there?” made it clear that she literally meant how do you get there. I should have remembered that I was dealing with a four year old who was thinking of how to physically get above the clouds and not someone looking for a big meaningful talk about God! She went for totally gut wrenching with the next question of, “What do you think your Mom is doing in Heaven?” Isabelle was only one when my mother died so she doesn’t remember her, but we talk about her often and we bring flowers to the cemetery. So I told her that Grammy is doing all the things she loves, eating her favorite foods, watching over us, and loving us from Heaven. She seemed pleased with this answer and all in all I think the talk went well (I also struggled when she asked if there were kids in Heaven). I love that she is curious and that she wants to know more about life, death, and all that comes in between. Sometimes I just wish that I had more time to think up the answers! 

How do you handle the rough questions?

Turn left at the second cloud and Heaven will be on your right.


  1. Those are all hard questions. Similarly we talk about Bill's sister who passed and the kids know she is in Heaven, as is Mimi. So I tell them it isn't a place you can't visit, just a place to think about with their heart when they reflect on memories or stories of this person. So confusing for everyone! Lucky they have you to guide them along the way!

  2. Tony's mom died last year just after Jackson's second birthday. Even though she wasn't a church goer, she wanted us to tell Jackson that she went to heaven to live with God. It comes up every once in a while, but not too often. I like the story about the larva under water that become dragonflies and can't come back to tell the others where they have gone.

    Last week they lost Mike Delfeno on Desperate Housewives and they played a clip of him talking with his family about heaven. He said heaven is having a cheeseburger and a milkshake with your family. Putting that with the final episode of Lost (yes, I watch a lot of TV) I am starting to think when you go to heaven everyone is already there. I have also always thought that when you are in heaven you see people as you remember them best.


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